WHEN FORM OUTGROWS FUNCTION
copyright Bela Johnson, published by Inner Tapestry, June/July 2003
Looking tired? Worn thin? Need a change? Such phrases remind us that life
involves an ongoing process of death (letting go) and renewal (starting
afresh). And even though we are bombarded in our consumerist culture with
invitations to endlessly gather, letting go of what we no longer need or
what no longer serves us must come first. In this, the season of the New
England yard sale, perhaps we can reflect on how letting go of what we no
longer need can make room for better things to come our way, on many
levels.
In Dr. Frank Lipman's new book TOTAL RENEWAL, we are introduced to a
multifaceted healing system which addresses the body and beyond. Among his
suggestions, we are encouraged to release what are termed "burdens" in
order to experience resilience, vitality and long-term health. These
burdens include, but are not limited to, environmental toxins (air
pollution, noise pollution, food chemicals, mold, mildew and heavy metals),
drugs, allergins, toxic diets and constant dieting, nutritional
deficiencies, physical tension, too much or dissatisfying work, low self
esteem, lack of joy or love, holding grudges, judgments, chronic worrying,
doubts and pessimism, loneliness or isolation, lack of sleep or exercise,
climactic extremes, lack of gratitude, separation from nature, lack of
trust in self or the Universe, and a sense of disconnection from a Higher
Power.
Many of us attend to some of Lipman's list while excluding others. For
example, walking three miles a day and eating a balanced diet rich in
organic foods and supplements can be very energizing. Yet maintaining a
self critical attitude which is reinforced by unsupportive friends and
family can more than offset our good intentions. If we are feeling
depleted, our body's sympomatology may still be informing us of an
imbalance. Pain is meant to get our attention, and as a spiritually gifted
teacher I know likes to say, "the gods whisper before they scream." If
Carl Jung was right, then, and those gods reside within us, the body, house
of the soul, bears listening and paying attention to. Renewal begins then,
quite literally at home. Like a house with a warm kitchen but an office
full of disorganized stacks of paperwork, we might, for example, be using
the comfort of food to offset anxieties about unfinished business. Like
pictures hanging crooked on their mountings, we may not even notice how
chaotic our inner lives have become. A leaky faucet might symbolize the
emotional waters we have been trying to bypass, in an ongoing rush to
succeed financially at the expense of nurturing relationships.
In the ancient Chinese art of FENG SHUI, it is said that house is metaphor
for self. Feng shui (pronounced FUNG SHWAY) is the Chinese art of
placement, or intentionally creating harmony in one's physical
environment. Feng shui offers rich symbolism which can be utilized and
reflected upon in everyday life. By creating an intentional relationship
with our environment, we are creating an opportunity for rejuvenation, as
defined by Webster: "to make, feel, or seem new or fresh again." I like
Webster's second definition as well, "to increase the grade and speed of
flow of a stream," as we are reminded to "go with the flow," or to "follow
a stream of consciousness." If we are to surrender to these more flowing
aspects of ourselves, however, we need to clean up the messes which prevent
movement. And though there are many books written on feng shui, one of my
favorites is a remainder I picked up on a Border's table called THE
PRACTICAL ENCYCLOPEDIA OF FENG SHUI by Gil Hale. This beautifully
illustrated work is packed with useful tips, such as "if our working lives
are hectic, our living rooms will (ideally) reflect our desire for a
peaceful haven. Lonely people should, however, use this room to reflect
their need for companionship and remove all single images - such as
pictures of lone figures; ornaments should be grouped in pairs, and the
room should be used to create a positive energy." In a family environment,
for example, one child's work should not be overly featured, to prevent
others from feeling less important.
Another way in which we can observe the state of our inner house is to pay
attention to our dreams. Again, remember house is metaphor for self.
Notice if your "dream" house is a castle, a shed; cluttered or open. Does
it feel safe or threatening, is it multileveled or on one plane? The
dimension and feeling to the spiritual house gives us clues as to where we
are in our life process. Attics may represent higher mind, where cellars
symbolize the subconscious. Where is your dream taking place? What is the
condition of your space? What colors predominate? (as colors in feng shui
represent various elements: green/wood, red/fire, yellow to brown/earth,
blue/water, white, grey, silver or gold/metal). Feng shui focuses on how
energy moves or does not move, throughout our environment. How does energy
move or feel restricted in our "dream" house?
In the science of Physics, the Law of Conservation of Energy states that
energy never dies, it only changes form. The Law of Inertia conveys that
once an object is in motion, it remains in motion until an equal or greater
force opposes it. Energy, by its very nature, seeks movement. We humans
are energetic beings, and human growth and development is in constant
flux. If this growth and development appears to stagnate, movement is
still continuing on some level. But rather than that movement being of an
intentional sort, proceeding in a direction we intention through our
desire, it may change form into something like cancer, for example, a
disease symbolizing out-of-control growth through the rapid duplication of
the "wrong" kind of cells. As for the Law of Inertia, what must come into
our lives to challenge us, if we remain "stuck" for too long? Instead of
resisting change, an all-too-human dilemma, embracing life's inevitable ebb
and flow allows us to renew ourselves through shedding, grieving, and
inviting new experiences and opportunities for growth.
How can we reorient ourselves to a process which liberates more energy so
that we might feel the effects of renewal in our lives? We can start by
spring cleaning - cleaning out our metaphoric and literal houses, cleaning
our bodies through sensible diet and exercise, those which we are drawn to
and which feel good (i.e., if you can't stand exercising on machines inside
a closed building, a gym membership is probably not a wise investment.
Take a daily walk in nature, and dress for the occasion!). Clear out toxic
relationships and other "burdens," to use Lipman's term. This might feel
stressful at first, especially if you feel it must be "all or nothing."
Yet remember energy does not die, rather it changes form. Your
relationship to friends and family can simply change form rather than
terminate, for example. Treat yourself to a more self respectful
lifestyle. Get rest, schedule a massage. See a therapist or begin a
meditation or yoga class. Notice the patterns you have established in your
life. Even changing some little way of doing a thing might create enough
movement to pick up momentum which can carry you in a more self validating
direction. Realizing that beneficial change takes time, we can allow
ourselves time to reflect, reorganize and renew. This can certainly lead
to rejuvenation, body, mind and soul.